Developing Effective Life Strategies
Author: Dottie DeSelle

This article is part of a class I taught recently on developing life strategies that work . The class was put together around seven spiritualprinciples that are basic in all of our lives. We also developed specific strategies around each one of the principles involved. The following material is from part one of the class.

Principle # 1-If you don't learn (GET IT) the lesson now, it will return again and again.

STRATEGY: Learn why you and other people do what they do and be willing to change your behavior accordingly.

1) Realize that by the time you notice the lesson, it has already occurred several times before.
2) If something negative is happening, look to the source and work to resolve it completely vs. band-aid it.
3) If you operate without the necessary behaviors, skills or information you need to get the results you desire, or if you operate without a plan or strategy you will often continue the same behaviors over and over with the same poor results.
Remember that Einstein's definition of insanity was doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results!

Resolve to gather knowledge about how and why you and others do you do.
10 Most Common Traits Among People

1) The number one fear among all people is rejection
2) The number one need among all people is acceptance
3) To manage people effectively, you must do it in a way that protects or enhances their self esteem
4) Everybody approaches every situation with some concern about "what is in it for me"
5) Everybody prefers to talk about things that are important to them personally
6) People hear and incorporate only what they understand
7) People like, trust, believe those who like them
8) People often do things other than for the apparent reason
9) Even people of quality can be petty and small
10)Everyone wears a social mask. You must look beyond the mask to see the person.

These traits apply both within yourself as well as others you encounter on a daily basis. Test them out...
example: resolve to go into a store today that you have to go into, smile and make eye contact and say something positive to the person you are dealing with. Notice what their behavior is toward you.

If you wish to develop a strategy that:
a) enables you to understand your own behaviors and
b) enables you to positively influence others

these traits are a simple list toward understanding how we respond to others.






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I am a personal and business coach. I have worked in both business and the medical profession for the past twenty years. I work with individuals who are naturally achievement oriented and are feeling stuck in their present circumstances, or choose to achieve a higher level of success. My own background is that of a professional working parent. I have an innate understanding of the challenges and responsibilities in this ever increasing population. I enjoy working with individuals or groups of any kind that wish to define what success means for them, and are willing to make the lasting changes to acquire that success. I can be reached by email atjumpstrt@flash.net or please visit my website athttp://www.bjordan/coach


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