Healing from Sexual Abuse
Author: Carol Tuttle

One of the greatest obstacles survivors of sexual abuse can face is the amount of denial they experience from perpetrators and even loved ones who doubt their experience could have happened.

As a result of this lack of support, it can make it difficult to want to fully heal. The deeper belief is "if I heal, there will be no evidence of this person's wrong doing, and they will never have to pay the price for their actions." It is as though you have to stay in a wounded victim state to be the evidence of the abuse. Healing would erase all evidence, and the fear is no one will be held accountable.

I have had the opportunity in assisting hundreds of women healing from sexual abuse clear this deeper fear.

I have had repeated success with this simple formula of healing:

The wounded little girl inside that is still carrying all the residual effects of the abuse needs to be validated that she has been deeply hurt and betrayed.

Once validated, the inner child needs to be brought to a save place in a guided imagery, where she is reassured she will never be hurt again. She is not the one here in this life anymore, her adult self is, and is healing and choosing to create a safe life now, where no one has to get hurt anymore. Once this inner child is brought to a safe place, the residual energy from the abuse needs to be cleared with an energy-clearing tool like Rapid Eye Technology or Emotional Freedom Technique. (See other attachment)

The most powerful limiting beliefs and repressed emotions that need to be cleared include:

My needs and desires are not important
Others needs are more important than mine
My body is bad because it might have felt good
Sex is love
I can only be loved for sex
I can’t be loved for just me
Sex is bad
Men/women only want one thing
I am impure, bad, dirty, evil, defiled, sinful, immoral, guilty, shame
Bad things happen to bad people
The world is not a safe place
Others are deceptive and manipulative

Once clear of these negative beliefs and emotions, positive reframes are anchored in by repeating the following statements while tapping up and over the top to the back of the ears. This tapping works on imprinting the following truths into your consciousness.

I am safe
It is safe to beautiful
It is safe to be a woman/man
I am trusting the right people
I am healing now
This little girl is safe now
This little girt can heal now
I am pure because I am part of the divine
I am treated with respect
I am precious
I am safe to be my real self
All part of me can heal and integrate

I have witnessed miraculous healings in the lives of many people who suffered terribly as children. I believe that we are all endowed with a healing for whatever adversity we have come through. We carry our healing as part of the larger intelligence of who we are.

The above techniques tap into that healing intelligence to activate and bring it forth in your life. Healing no longer has to be hard and take a long time. Believe you deserve to heal. Let go of staying the evidence. You only give more power to more children being abused as you stay a wounded victim. As you reclaim your life, one more person breaks the chain and is now available to make a difference in this world for the good.

Beat your perpetrator at this vicious game by clearing and healing any residue you may still carry from your painful childhood. Don't settle for surviving, go for the gold and claim your rights at thriving.

"Close your eyes, take three deep breaths fully and deeply into your body. With every exhale, let your body become more relaxed. Imagine yourself in a beautiful safe place with the ligth of heaven pouring down on you. In your mind imagine divine beings there to assist you in your healing. Feel the great love, honor and respect they have for you. Ask them to go to the cave of lost children to find the parts of you that are still suffering from the abuse of your childhood.

Imagine they depart and quickly return with the ages of you that had been abused. Imagine these younger ones eager to be found and brought to safety. Look them in the eye, reach out to them in love, and tell them you are glad they came. It is time to let the healing begin. They do not need to carry the wounds of your past any longer. Thank them for carrying them this long. Validate their pain and suffering and tell them you believe them. Tell them the divine beings believe them.

Invite them to release their pain and suffering into the white light to be dissolved. Invite them to receive in return more of their pure essence and power. Imagine all of them bathed in white light to clear any sense of impurity. Tell them they never have to leave this place. This is their new home. They will never be found-out by anyone that could hurt them. The beings of light are there to stay with them and protect them. Thank them for coming home to you today.

Share with them you are healing and making your life work and they can trust you now. Come back into present time. Feel your body in the space you occupy. Open your eyes in present time. Now that you are safe and loved"

Another way I used this technique was to help me heal my issues with having sex. Having a healthy sexual experience was almost impossible for me the first 15 years of my marriage.

Ten years into my marriage is when I discovered the deeper issues of sexual abuse that had complicated it so much. I did not know how to stay in my adult presence and feel safe in the experience. I continually felt like I was being abused all over again as I had as a child.

To help me heal this, I created an imagery much like the above and before I would have sex with my husband I would call in my "little Carol's" and meet with them and explain that I was choosing to have sex with my husband and it did not involve them. They were not a part of it. I brought in a guardian angel to take them away to a safe place far enough removed from my experience, where they could play and be free.

I would have images of these "little Carol's" jumping for joy saying to me "good we don't want anything to do with that stuff!" I used this technique repeatedly and as a result I gained more and more presence as an adult woman who wanted to enjoy sex with her husband. I also had to train my body that it was safe and desirable. I have other techniques I used for that like the EFT!! It has all worked.

I am a free woman enjoying sex several times a week. That is from coming from a place where I wished I it was not a part of my marriage and in the worst stage of healing I was not willing to participate in any sex for almost a year! I have a very patient, faithful husband!! I now what I am talking about when wives do not want sex and their husbands think they need it!






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Carol Tuttle is an energy therapist and the author of Remembering Wholeness: A Personal Handbook for Thriving in the 21st Century. Check out her best-selling CD, "Healing Sexual Abuse and Sexual Issues in Marriage." For more information on Carol her book and CD’s go to ww.caroltuttle.com

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