Your Husband's JOB!
Author: Lynn Burrow

What does your husband do for a living? Are you proud of what he does or are you ashamed? Do you make more money than he does and is that an issue in your relationship?

Career paths are usually broken into two categories:

1. White Collar Workers - These are the men whom most women desire as husbands. They wear suits and nice dress clothes to work. Many of them are lawyers, doctors, business owners, executives, engineers, accountants, and so on and so forth.

2. Blue Collar Workers - These are the individuals who are not afraid to get their hands dirty. This category would include the plumbers, electricians, building service workers, construction workers, garbage collectors, cable installers, telephone repairmen, and so on and so forth.

In social settings, when women discuss the fact that they are married (or engaged), the question almost always arises: What does your husband do for a living? When that happens, some women cringe because they are ashamed. Many women are more educated than their husbands and they allow the forces of evil to convince them that there is a problem with being married to someone whose career is on a different or less prestigious level.

Many women are having marital problems due to the fact that they have allowed the pressures of society to cause them to be ashamed of their husbands. It is insanity. Given a choice, a sane woman would prefer a blue collar worker who is a born-again Christian to a white collar worker who is wicked and ungodly. Money and power will never take the place of peace of mind and true love.

We Grew Apart...

Women marry men in whatever vocation they have at the time they met; however, in too many instances, after the marriage, the woman feels that the man no longer is on her level and the marriage starts to suffer cracks and bruises.

When you question such women about the separation or divorce, the response is often, “We just grew apart...” Excuse me? Grew apart? Whatever happened to God’s mandate that “The two shall become one flesh”. The fingers don’t grow apart from the hand because they are “one flesh”. The head does not grow apart form the neck because they are “one flesh.” The feet and ankles don’t grow apart because they are “one flesh”. Therefore, how on earth does a couple who have taken vows together “grow apart”?
Easy. Too many people are marrying for the wrong reasons and they never nurture their marriages and never allow the marriages to become “one flesh”.

In too many families the goal is to get the 3,000, 4,000, 7,000 square foot home and luxury cars. Yet, very little effort is put into mutual respect and admiration. “We just grew apart...” Yeah, right!

Ashamed of the man’s occupation. There are women out here who embellish their husband’s job description to make it appear that he is something that in fact he is not. There are women who lie about what their husbands do for a living.

The Bible says that the love of money is the root of all evil. Money is not evil. It’s the love of it that’s evil. Too many couples have separate bank accounts because they don’t trust one another. If a woman has a husband who is irresponsible with money, of course her bank account must remain separated from his to protect the family.

If a woman has a husband who is reasonable and responsible, their money should be in the same bank account. If that were to happen, it would not matter whether the husband or the wife makes the most money. It would not matter whether or not the man is a street sweeper or dentist. The bills would be paid out of the same pot. The debts would be paid from the same pot. The tithes and offerings would come from the same pot. The husband and wife would be EQUAL because the money would be their money. No longer would the man feel intimidated by the fact that his wife makes ,000 per year while he makes ,500 per year. It would not make a difference because the money would all go into the same source---and be used by both parties. We grew apart? How could that happen? In a marriage that is whole that is not possible.

Introspection

Think about yourself. Are you ashamed of your husband’s job? Do you make more money than he does? If so, does that make you uncomfortable?

Sister, may I share with you that life is only a vapor and that in a short while you will look in the mirror and find a woman staring back at you who has grey hair and wrinkles. Before you know it, you and your husband will be hugging grandchildren and great-grandchildren.

In the scheme of things, does it really matter that he is not a White Collar worker? Can’t you just love and respect him for who he is as a man---his character, his morals---and most important, as the man whom you fell in love with?

The Carpenter

Is your husband a White Collar worker? If so, would you ever have considered marrying a Blue Collar worker? For example, would you have considered marrying a carpenter? If you were to be totally honest, you probably would be ashamed to be married to a carpenter.

BUT, Jesus Christ was a carpenter by profession. He was and is brilliant. He created intelligence. He could have been a lawyer, doctor, tax collector (accountant), or anything else He wanted to be. Yet, He chose to be a carpenter. That’s a blue collar job. We serve a God who is NOT a snob.

Can you imagine having a better husband than Jesus? There are women reading this article right now who would reject Jesus Christ because of His profession. If Jesus were to place Himself in a human body, in a carpenter’s uniform and approach some of the women reading this article, He would be rejected by a huge number of them. I am talking about the single women BUT those of you who are married are in the same boat and I’ll tell you why. IF you were not married and in a position to date, most of you would reject a blue collar carpenter! I am telling the truth.

Why did God speak this article into my spirit? You know why. A huge number of women reading this article are ashamed of their husbands. That’s not of God. Marriages are falling apart due to the silliness of job titles and money issues (who makes the most in the marriage). It’s all nonsense and it’s wicked.

Be honest. Are you ashamed of your husband (or fiance)‘s vocation? If so, the next time you are in a social situation and someone asks you about what he does for a living, PLEASE immediately remind yourself that Jesus was a Blue Collar worker when He walked the earth. Next, be honest. Don’t embellish or try to make your husband out to be someone he is not. If he is a maintenance man, say so. Say it with pride. Brag about how proud you are of him. Share with your friends about what a hard worker he is. Let them know that you chose a man who has a great work ethic. He is not afraid to get his hands dirty. You don’t need to call outside help when something in your home breaks. Your Blue Collar man can fix anything that needs fixing!

You could have a PhD, a DDS, an LSW, an MD, or any other prestigious title. It does not make a bit of difference. Be proud of your man. Take him around your friends. Don’t hide him. Of course you need to ensure that he has some sharp outfits for social purposes and church. You don’t want him dressing in uniform or looking sloppy all the time. But show him off. Let everyone see the BLESSED man who was smart enough to marry you!

The Bible says, “Blessed is the man whom you choose and causes to approach you” (Psalm 65:4). You caused a man to approach you. That man dated you. He asked you to marry him. You chose him as your lifetime mate. He is your husband. GOD said that he is “blessed”.

So are you, sister. You are blessed to have a husband in a land where there is a genuine man shortage. You are blessed to have a husband in a world where women are scratching and clawing for a mate. Be a good help-meet to your man. Adam was a Blue Collar man and his job was to care for his land. Yet, Eve was the perfect help-meet for him.

You are blessed to have a husband, regardless of his vocation. Walk in that blessing. Be PROUD of your Blue Collar man! JESUS was a hard-working Blue Collar Gentleman. Enough said.






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Lynn is a minister, writer and assistant pastor of her church. Feel free to visit her discussion forum at: http://cwfj.proboards1.com

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