One Potato, Two Potato . . .French Fries . . . Couch Potato?
Author: Dr. Michael Popkin

Our daughter, Megan, was barely walking when my mother made the comment that she seemed a little chubby. My wife and I naturally took great offense at this slight to our first born and heretofore perfect offspring, protesting that this was only a case of baby fat. My mother quickly backed off, saying that chubby wasn't really fat, but only…well…chubby. Graciously we accepted her back-pedaling and were pretty well mollified until an hour or so later when we all settled back on the sofa after a big meal to watch TV. A few minutes into the show, a clearly obese actress appeared on the screen and my mother blurted out, "Wow, she sure is chubby."

Megan is now seventeen and there isn't a chubby bone in her athletic body. Our son, Ben, is thirteen and playing football at the flyweight of a mere 76 pounds and wishes he could somehow put on a few pounds. But they are getting to be more and more the exception. The American Obesity Association reports that about 30% of children and teens today are overweight, and that about half of those qualify as obese. This is 2.5 times the rate it was just 30 years ago.

Among other problems, these kids are at higher risk for asthma, diabetes, hypertension and orthopedic problems not to mention being teased unmercifully by their peers. In a society that still overly glamorizes model-like physiques as the sine qua non of physical beauty, this can also lead to self-image issues, depression, and eating disorders. Oh, and these kids are also at much greater risk at becoming overweight and obese adults. Of course, by that time they will have lots of company as the incidence of overweight adults is now up to almost 66%. That two-thirds of us fall into this category (I pause to pinch my love handles, wondering if I qualify or not at 6'1" and 195 pounds) makes us wonder what has been going on in our society the past 30 years that’s making us so…well…chubby? You can't blame increases of this magnitude on genetics, unless we have become a nation of teenage mutant ninja butterballs.

The evidence points more to lifestyle and diet. We have become a nation of fast food junkies munching away at French fries and other high-carb foods while frenetically on the go. Unfortunately, on the go in this case does not usually include exercise. At thirteen I was usually outside playing the sport du jour (basketball, baseball, football), while nowadays my son would rather be inside on the couch mastering the latest video game. I wonder how many calories one can burn defeating Japanese martial arts villains in a video game?

We have been teaching parents the importance of healthy activities in Active Parenting programs since the beginning, stressing that taking time for fun together is a great way to build relationships and teach qualities of character.

My wife sets an even better example for our children. Being a runner and veteran of a dozen Peachtree Road Races, she has made exercise and good diet a part of our family lifestyle. She even taught Megan and Ben to like broccoli by serving it as an appetizer (when they were the most hungry) as they grew up, and she's made sure that our family vacations have routinely included mountain biking, hiking and other physical activities. In this era of fast food and faster living we need to follow such examples.

Some ideas to tackle this problem from the American Obesity Association and Active Parenting include:

• Make time for the entire family to participate in regular physical activities like walking, biking or rollerblading.
• Assign active chores to each family member such as vacuuming, washing the car or mowing the lawn
• Encourage your child to join a sports team at school or a recreation center.
• Limit the amount of screen time your child engages in (that includes TV, video and computer time).
• Serve a healthy diet, limiting fried foods, sugar and other unhealthy products.
• Encourage your children to be part of the planning, preparation and cooking of some of the meals.
• Eat more meals together at the dinner table at regular times.
• Have healthy snack food available such as fruits, vegetables and yogurt.
• Avoid serving portions that are too large (and share overly large portions when you eat out).
• Avoid forcing your child to eat when he/she is not hungry (If your child is losing too much weight, consult a healthcare professional).
• Limit fast-food eating to no more than once a week (and don't supersize it).
• Avoid using food as a reward or lack of food as a punishment.

There is no real substitute for exercise and diet when it comes to teaching our kids, and ourselves, how to have a healthy weight in life. We teach our kids how to count by playing such games as one potato, two potato… Now let's teach the whole family to pass on the French fries and get off the couch. Otherwise, somebody's mother is going to be calling all of us chubby pretty soon.

Dr. Popkin’s newest book, the Active Parenting Now AudioBook, explains how to use effective discipline and communication skills to help your family run more smoothly. Visit www.ActiveParenting.com for more information about all of our parenting resources.

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Michael H. Popkin, Ph.D., founder of Active Parenting Publishers in 1983, has written and produced more than a dozen video and discussion programs.

Prior to founding Active Parenting Publishers, Dr. Popkin practiced family therapy in Atlanta. His work with confused parents and unhappy children convinced him that parents were not receiving the information and tools they needed to help their children become responsible, contented adults. He has served on numerous advisory boards, including the panel of experts assembled for the United States Office of Substance Abuse Prevention. He is widely known for his expertise in the field of parent education and has appeared on over 100 TV programs, including CNN and “The Oprah Winfrey Show.”

Dr. Popkin earned a Doctorate in Counseling Psychology from Georgia State University and served as Director of Child and Family Services at an Atlanta hospital before entering private practice. Dr. Popkin lives in Atlanta with his wife and two children.

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