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Reinforce Your Self Esteem To Enjoy
Explosive Success
by Rick Saldan
The self image of a person is the rudder that
determines every single aspect of their lives, to include career,
friendships, martial partners, hobbies, and physical health. When
a child grows up with a damaged self esteem, their rudder
constantly sways them towards negative and toxic relationships
that often cause greater harm and even further damage. Conversely,
a vibrant and thriving self image draws that person to the heights
with a continual drive to achieving the best that life has to
offer.
The self esteem of an individual is one of their most precious
assets during their 70 odd years on this Earth. The self esteem
must be consciously nurtured and protected, just as one would do
for their financial assets or other precious resources. Should the
gatekeeper to the self image fall asleep or become neglectful, the
unwitting individual can find themselves slipping downward into a
life cycle that perpetuates itself and grows. Negativity becomes a
black hole that becomes harder and harder to escape from.
When the self image is consciously nurtured and reinforced, it
becomes stronger just as any muscle in the physical body. When a
noticeable bump in the road occurs that throws most people off
balance, those with a stronger and fortified self image will
always rebound quicker, pick themselves and push on. They strive
to seek out sources of strength and reinforcement, gaining greater
ability to shake off negativity that others fall prey to.
The power of a strong resilient self-image is absolutely
incredible. How you think about yourself and your capabilities is
the deciding factor on who you are, where you go, and you can
deliver throughout your career. While most people have a fairly
healthy self-image that gets us through life with the typical ups
and downs, often this average level actually poses as a limiting
factor in the long run. We have built-in fears, apprehensions and
doubts about our capability, which could have deep roots in the
way we have been brought up, our life experiences, past
rejections, and so on. Many past events and people can irreparably
damage our sense of self-esteem and the way we look at ourselves.
We call this the mental bricks of life. The first step is to
search yourself, and discern where those mental bricks are hiding
out and have been holding us back. Once you realize this basic
truth and begin the hunt for freedom of these mental bricks, half
your problem is solved!
It is important to understand that most of the changes which we
want in life can be best brought about by ourselves. In other
words, the solution lies within the problem, within us. Lack of
good opinion about yourself and the subsequent mental blocks is
the only thing which often comes between you and success, money,
harmony in relationships and finally lasting happiness. Yet one
has to be cautious when thinking of improving self-image. Watch
out, so that you do not become another “I”-specialist – someone
who has such a high level of self-image that he thinks he is the
only person who is right and the rest of the world is wrong or
worthless. This is an easy trap to fall into, and many do succumb
to its siren-like enticements.
Improving self-image has to be moderated to the extent that you
are patient, understanding and compassionate with a healthy
interest and seeing others grow and succeed in their own
endeavors. A healthy balance of caring for others, and also
caring for yourself. The critical step is a world view that we are
all integrated and interdependent upon one another. Such a healthy
world view staves off the slippery slope of falling into egotism
and self centeredness. We blend our search for greater inner
strength with a healthy dose of sincere caring for others. This
gives us a bullet proof level of self confidence where we believe
that we can succeed in almost any endeavor, provided you put your
mind to it. In short, there is no place for the word ‘impossible'
in your day to day dictionary.
Why is having a positive self-image so critically important? It is
an often neglected asset in day to day living. But, truly, it is
only with a strong vibrant self image that we can take on more
challenges of life and succeed beyond our hopes and imagination.
This ultimate level of the greatest successes clearly cannot be
possible without a well-nurtured and mature self-image.
Life is full of surprises and obstacles – both in the professional
and personal front. If you harbor a poor self-image, you would
continuously think that none of these challenges can be met or
overcome. You will be locked into a self feeding loop, where
thoughts of venturing out past the comfort zone fill the mind and
heart with fear and anxiety. This in turn can result in serious
damage to your personal and career growth. A downward spiral
results.
Remember, whatever you think of yourself, is also reflected and
communicated to the world through non-verbal communication. Surely
you have met people, who have shifty eyes, who fumble and fidget,
and are hardly comfortable in an unforeseen situation.
On the flip side, there are many happy people who not only look
calm and collected during times of tension and stress, but exude
an air of infectious enthusiasm round them in all of their daily
endeavors. We call such wonderful people charismatic and natural
leaders. These are the people who excel as leaders in whichever
field they belong to. Their firm beliefs, the values they hold and
the confidence they have in what they do make them attract
followers and fans wherever they go. A people magnet.
The secret behind their deportment is a confident and healthy mind
which results in a positive self-image. This makes us resilient
during tough times, or times of change that would throw others
into a panic cork screw.
Change is inevitable, and a great source of stress in the average
adult. And yet, the only thing constant and permanent in life is
change. Situations, people, work and home environment - everything
is constantly changing. If you have a positive self-image, you
quickly adapt to change – a critical factor to succeed. There is
always a layer of opportunity buried within such tough times.
These are unopened gifts to the person with a healthy self image,
in that they are given an opportunity to shine and showcase their
hidden gifts and talents.
Some of our favorite heroes are those people who amazingly
overcome physical handicaps, and participate even in Olympics and
win the Gold for their country. Such enduring souls are a
testimony that with a well-tuned self-image, you can overcome any
obstacle which may come your way in life and career.
Can any one be trained to have a bullet proof self image? The
answer is a firm YES. In our leadership development programs, we
conduct a popular and well-admired program entitled “You Can Do
the Impossible”. This is a highly energetic program designed as a
participative and demonstrative session, where, we show you how
you can actually achieve what you imagined to be ‘impossible'. We
broke through barriers that are common to all people, and also
address individual barriers that hold back our participants from
achieving their greatest level of personal performance. We do this
by creating a highly charged positive environment that elevates
the self-image of the course participants so that you think beyond
the set limits of the mind.
All the barriers between you and achievement are in the mind, and
as the famous song goes: Free Your Mind…And the Rest Will Follow.
Nothing can be truer than this statement, especially when it comes
to improving or expanding your self-image. Free your mind from the
mental bricks, and you will find your life soaring to the greatest
heights that you never dreamed were even possible.
The self image of a person is the rudder that determines every
single aspect of their lives, to include career, friendships,
martial partners, hobbies, and physical health. When a child grows
up with a damaged self esteem, their rudder constantly sways them
towards negative and toxic relationships that often cause greater
harm and even further damage. Conversely, a vibrant and thriving
self image draws that person to the heights with a continual drive
to achieving the best that life has to offer.
The self esteem of an individual is one of their most precious
assets during their 70 odd years on this Earth. The self esteem
must be consciously nurtured and protected, just as one would do
for their financial assets or other precious resources. Should the
gatekeeper to the self image fall asleep or become neglectful, the
unwitting individual can find themselves slipping downward into a
life cycle that perpetuates itself and grows. Negativity becomes a
black hole that becomes harder and harder to escape from.
When the self image is consciously nurtured and reinforced, it
becomes stronger just as any muscle in the physical body. When a
noticeable bump in the road occurs that throws most people off
balance, those with a stronger and fortified self image will
always rebound quicker, pick themselves and push on. They strive
to seek out sources of strength and reinforcement, gaining greater
ability to shake off negativity that others fall prey to.
The power of a strong resilient self-image is absolutely
incredible. How you think about yourself and your capabilities is
the deciding factor on who you are, where you go, and you can
deliver throughout your career. While most people have a fairly
healthy self-image that gets us through life with the typical ups
and downs, often this average level actually poses as a limiting
factor in the long run. We have built-in fears, apprehensions and
doubts about our capability, which could have deep roots in the
way we have been brought up, our life experiences, past
rejections, and so on. Many past events and people can irreparably
damage our sense of self-esteem and the way we look at ourselves.
We call this the mental bricks of life. The first step is to
search yourself, and discern where those mental bricks are hiding
out and have been holding us back. Once you realize this basic
truth and begin the hunt for freedom of these mental bricks, half
your problem is solved!
It is important to understand that most of the changes which we
want in life can be best brought about by ourselves. In other
words, the solution lies within the problem, within us. Lack of
good opinion about yourself and the subsequent mental blocks is
the only thing which often comes between you and success, money,
harmony in relationships and finally lasting happiness. Yet one
has to be cautious when thinking of improving self-image. Watch
out, so that you do not become another “I”-specialist – someone
who has such a high level of self-image that he thinks he is the
only person who is right and the rest of the world is wrong or
worthless. This is an easy trap to fall into, and many do succumb
to its siren-like enticements.
Improving self-image has to be moderated to the extent that you
are patient, understanding and compassionate with a healthy
interest and seeing others grow and succeed in their own
endeavors. A healthy balance of caring for others, and also
caring for yourself. The critical step is a world view that we are
all integrated and interdependent upon one another. Such a healthy
world view staves off the slippery slope of falling into egotism
and self centeredness. We blend our search for greater inner
strength with a healthy dose of sincere caring for others. This
gives us a bullet proof level of self confidence where we believe
that we can succeed in almost any endeavor, provided you put your
mind to it. In short, there is no place for the word ‘impossible'
in your day to day dictionary.
Why is having a positive self-image so critically important? It is
an often neglected asset in day to day living. But, truly, it is
only with a strong vibrant self image that we can take on more
challenges of life and succeed beyond our hopes and imagination.
This ultimate level of the greatest successes clearly cannot be
possible without a well-nurtured and mature self-image.
Life is full of surprises and obstacles – both in the professional
and personal front. If you harbor a poor self-image, you would
continuously think that none of these challenges can be met or
overcome. You will be locked into a self feeding loop, where
thoughts of venturing out past the comfort zone fill the mind and
heart with fear and anxiety. This in turn can result in serious
damage to your personal and career growth. A downward spiral
results.
Remember, whatever you think of yourself, is also reflected and
communicated to the world through non-verbal communication. Surely
you have met people, who have shifty eyes, who fumble and fidget,
and are hardly comfortable in an unforeseen situation.
On the flip side, there are many happy people who not only look
calm and collected during times of tension and stress, but exude
an air of infectious enthusiasm round them in all of their daily
endeavors. We call such wonderful people charismatic and natural
leaders. These are the people who excel as leaders in whichever
field they belong to. Their firm beliefs, the values they hold and
the confidence they have in what they do make them attract
followers and fans wherever they go. A people magnet.
The secret behind their deportment is a confident and healthy mind
which results in a positive self-image. This makes us resilient
during tough times, or times of change that would throw others
into a panic cork screw.
Change is inevitable, and a great source of stress in the average
adult. And yet, the only thing constant and permanent in life is
change. Situations, people, work and home environment - everything
is constantly changing. If you have a positive self-image, you
quickly adapt to change – a critical factor to succeed. There is
always a layer of opportunity buried within such tough times.
These are unopened gifts to the person with a healthy self image,
in that they are given an opportunity to shine and showcase their
hidden gifts and talents.
Some of our favorite heroes are those people who amazingly
overcome physical handicaps, and participate even in Olympics and
win the Gold for their country. Such enduring souls are a
testimony that with a well-tuned self-image, you can overcome any
obstacle which may come your way in life and career.
Can any one be trained to have a bullet proof self image? The
answer is a firm YES. In our leadership development programs, we
conduct a popular and well-admired program entitled “You Can Do
the Impossible”. This is a highly energetic program designed as a
participative and demonstrative session, where, we show you how
you can actually achieve what you imagined to be ‘impossible'. We
broke through barriers that are common to all people, and also
address individual barriers that hold back our participants from
achieving their greatest level of personal performance. We do this
by creating a highly charged positive environment that elevates
the self-image of the course participants so that you think beyond
the set limits of the mind.
All the barriers between you and achievement are in the mind, and
as the famous song goes: Free Your Mind…And the Rest Will Follow.
Nothing can be truer than this statement, especially when it comes
to improving or expanding your self-image. Free your mind from the
mental bricks, and you will find your life soaring to the greatest
heights that you never dreamed were even possible.
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