Reinforce Your Self Esteem To Enjoy Explosive Success

by Rick Saldan

The self image of a person is the rudder that determines every single aspect of their lives, to include career, friendships, martial partners, hobbies, and physical health. When a child grows up with a damaged self esteem, their rudder constantly sways them towards negative and toxic relationships that often cause greater harm and even further damage. Conversely, a vibrant and thriving self image draws that person to the heights with a continual drive to achieving the best that life has to offer.
 
The self esteem of an individual is one of their most precious assets during their 70 odd years on this Earth. The self esteem must be consciously nurtured and protected, just as one would do for their financial assets or other precious resources. Should the gatekeeper to the self image fall asleep or become neglectful, the unwitting individual can find themselves slipping downward into a life cycle that perpetuates itself and grows. Negativity becomes a black hole that becomes harder and harder to escape from.
 
When the self image is consciously nurtured and reinforced, it becomes stronger just as any muscle in the physical body. When a noticeable bump in the road occurs that throws most people off balance, those with a stronger and fortified self image will always rebound quicker, pick themselves and push on. They strive to seek out sources of strength and reinforcement, gaining greater ability to shake off negativity that others fall prey to.
 
The power of a strong resilient self-image is absolutely incredible. How you think about yourself and your capabilities is the deciding factor on who you are, where you go, and you can deliver throughout your career. While most people have a fairly healthy self-image that gets us through life with the typical ups and downs, often this average level actually poses as a limiting factor in the long run. We have built-in fears, apprehensions and doubts about our capability, which could have deep roots in the way we have been brought up, our life experiences, past rejections, and so on. Many past events and people can irreparably damage our sense of self-esteem and the way we look at ourselves. We call this the mental bricks of life. The first step is to search yourself, and discern where those mental bricks are hiding out and have been holding us back. Once you realize this basic truth and begin the hunt for freedom of these mental bricks, half your problem is solved!
 
It is important to understand that most of the changes which we want in life can be best brought about by ourselves. In other words, the solution lies within the problem, within us. Lack of good opinion about yourself and the subsequent mental blocks is the only thing which often comes between you and success, money, harmony in relationships and finally lasting happiness. Yet one has to be cautious when thinking of improving self-image. Watch out, so that you do not become another “I”-specialist – someone who has such a high level of self-image that he thinks he is the only person who is right and the rest of the world is wrong or worthless. This is an easy trap to fall into, and many do succumb to its siren-like enticements.
 
Improving self-image has to be moderated to the extent that you are patient, understanding and compassionate with a healthy interest and seeing others grow and succeed in their own endeavors.  A healthy balance of caring for others, and also caring for yourself. The critical step is a world view that we are all integrated and interdependent upon one another. Such a healthy world view staves off the slippery slope of falling into egotism and self centeredness.  We blend our search for greater inner strength with a healthy dose of sincere caring for others. This gives us a bullet proof level of self confidence where we believe that we can succeed in almost any endeavor, provided you put your mind to it. In short, there is no place for the word ‘impossible' in your day to day dictionary.
 
Why is having a positive self-image so critically important? It is an often neglected asset in day to day living.  But, truly, it is only with a strong vibrant self image that we can take on more challenges of life and succeed beyond our hopes and imagination. This ultimate level of the greatest successes clearly cannot be possible without a well-nurtured and mature self-image.
 
Life is full of surprises and obstacles – both in the professional and personal front. If you harbor a poor self-image, you would continuously think that none of these challenges can be met or overcome. You will be locked into a self feeding loop, where thoughts of venturing out past the comfort zone fill the mind and heart with fear and anxiety. This in turn can result in serious damage to your personal and career growth. A downward spiral results.
 
Remember, whatever you think of yourself, is also reflected and communicated to the world through non-verbal communication. Surely you have met people, who have shifty eyes, who fumble and fidget, and are hardly comfortable in an unforeseen situation.
 
On the flip side, there are many happy people who not only look calm and collected during times of tension and stress, but exude an air of infectious enthusiasm round them in all of their daily endeavors. We call such wonderful people charismatic and natural leaders. These are the people who excel as leaders in whichever field they belong to. Their firm beliefs, the values they hold and the confidence they have in what they do make them attract followers and fans wherever they go. A people magnet.
 
The secret behind their deportment is a confident and healthy mind which results in a positive self-image. This makes us resilient during tough times, or times of change that would throw others into a panic cork screw.
 
Change is inevitable, and a great source of stress in the average adult. And yet, the only thing constant and permanent in life is change. Situations, people, work and home environment - everything is constantly changing. If you have a positive self-image, you quickly adapt to change – a critical factor to succeed. There is always a layer of opportunity buried within such tough times.  These are unopened gifts to the person with a healthy self image, in that they are given an opportunity to shine and showcase their hidden gifts and talents.
 
Some of our favorite heroes are those people who amazingly overcome physical handicaps, and participate even in Olympics and win the Gold for their country. Such enduring souls are a testimony that with a well-tuned self-image, you can overcome any obstacle which may come your way in life and career.
 
Can any one be trained to have a bullet proof self image? The answer is a firm YES. In our leadership development programs, we conduct a popular and well-admired program entitled “You Can Do the Impossible”. This is a highly energetic program designed as a participative and demonstrative session, where, we show you how you can actually achieve what you imagined to be ‘impossible'. We broke through barriers that are common to all people, and also address individual barriers that hold back our participants from achieving their greatest level of personal performance. We do this by creating a highly charged positive environment that elevates the self-image of the course participants so that you think beyond the set limits of the mind.
 
All the barriers between you and achievement are in the mind, and as the famous song goes: Free Your Mind…And the Rest Will Follow. Nothing can be truer than this statement, especially when it comes to improving or expanding your self-image. Free your mind from the mental bricks, and you will find your life soaring to the greatest heights that you never dreamed were even possible.
 
The self image of a person is the rudder that determines every single aspect of their lives, to include career, friendships, martial partners, hobbies, and physical health. When a child grows up with a damaged self esteem, their rudder constantly sways them towards negative and toxic relationships that often cause greater harm and even further damage. Conversely, a vibrant and thriving self image draws that person to the heights with a continual drive to achieving the best that life has to offer.
 
The self esteem of an individual is one of their most precious assets during their 70 odd years on this Earth. The self esteem must be consciously nurtured and protected, just as one would do for their financial assets or other precious resources. Should the gatekeeper to the self image fall asleep or become neglectful, the unwitting individual can find themselves slipping downward into a life cycle that perpetuates itself and grows. Negativity becomes a black hole that becomes harder and harder to escape from.
 
When the self image is consciously nurtured and reinforced, it becomes stronger just as any muscle in the physical body. When a noticeable bump in the road occurs that throws most people off balance, those with a stronger and fortified self image will always rebound quicker, pick themselves and push on. They strive to seek out sources of strength and reinforcement, gaining greater ability to shake off negativity that others fall prey to.
 
The power of a strong resilient self-image is absolutely incredible. How you think about yourself and your capabilities is the deciding factor on who you are, where you go, and you can deliver throughout your career. While most people have a fairly healthy self-image that gets us through life with the typical ups and downs, often this average level actually poses as a limiting factor in the long run. We have built-in fears, apprehensions and doubts about our capability, which could have deep roots in the way we have been brought up, our life experiences, past rejections, and so on. Many past events and people can irreparably damage our sense of self-esteem and the way we look at ourselves. We call this the mental bricks of life. The first step is to search yourself, and discern where those mental bricks are hiding out and have been holding us back. Once you realize this basic truth and begin the hunt for freedom of these mental bricks, half your problem is solved!
 
It is important to understand that most of the changes which we want in life can be best brought about by ourselves. In other words, the solution lies within the problem, within us. Lack of good opinion about yourself and the subsequent mental blocks is the only thing which often comes between you and success, money, harmony in relationships and finally lasting happiness. Yet one has to be cautious when thinking of improving self-image. Watch out, so that you do not become another “I”-specialist – someone who has such a high level of self-image that he thinks he is the only person who is right and the rest of the world is wrong or worthless. This is an easy trap to fall into, and many do succumb to its siren-like enticements.
 
Improving self-image has to be moderated to the extent that you are patient, understanding and compassionate with a healthy interest and seeing others grow and succeed in their own endeavors.  A healthy balance of caring for others, and also caring for yourself. The critical step is a world view that we are all integrated and interdependent upon one another. Such a healthy world view staves off the slippery slope of falling into egotism and self centeredness.  We blend our search for greater inner strength with a healthy dose of sincere caring for others. This gives us a bullet proof level of self confidence where we believe that we can succeed in almost any endeavor, provided you put your mind to it. In short, there is no place for the word ‘impossible' in your day to day dictionary.
 
Why is having a positive self-image so critically important? It is an often neglected asset in day to day living.  But, truly, it is only with a strong vibrant self image that we can take on more challenges of life and succeed beyond our hopes and imagination. This ultimate level of the greatest successes clearly cannot be possible without a well-nurtured and mature self-image.
 
Life is full of surprises and obstacles – both in the professional and personal front. If you harbor a poor self-image, you would continuously think that none of these challenges can be met or overcome. You will be locked into a self feeding loop, where thoughts of venturing out past the comfort zone fill the mind and heart with fear and anxiety. This in turn can result in serious damage to your personal and career growth. A downward spiral results.
 
Remember, whatever you think of yourself, is also reflected and communicated to the world through non-verbal communication. Surely you have met people, who have shifty eyes, who fumble and fidget, and are hardly comfortable in an unforeseen situation.
 
On the flip side, there are many happy people who not only look calm and collected during times of tension and stress, but exude an air of infectious enthusiasm round them in all of their daily endeavors. We call such wonderful people charismatic and natural leaders. These are the people who excel as leaders in whichever field they belong to. Their firm beliefs, the values they hold and the confidence they have in what they do make them attract followers and fans wherever they go. A people magnet.
 
The secret behind their deportment is a confident and healthy mind which results in a positive self-image. This makes us resilient during tough times, or times of change that would throw others into a panic cork screw.
 
Change is inevitable, and a great source of stress in the average adult. And yet, the only thing constant and permanent in life is change. Situations, people, work and home environment - everything is constantly changing. If you have a positive self-image, you quickly adapt to change – a critical factor to succeed. There is always a layer of opportunity buried within such tough times.  These are unopened gifts to the person with a healthy self image, in that they are given an opportunity to shine and showcase their hidden gifts and talents.
 
Some of our favorite heroes are those people who amazingly overcome physical handicaps, and participate even in Olympics and win the Gold for their country. Such enduring souls are a testimony that with a well-tuned self-image, you can overcome any obstacle which may come your way in life and career.
 
Can any one be trained to have a bullet proof self image? The answer is a firm YES. In our leadership development programs, we conduct a popular and well-admired program entitled “You Can Do the Impossible”. This is a highly energetic program designed as a participative and demonstrative session, where, we show you how you can actually achieve what you imagined to be ‘impossible'. We broke through barriers that are common to all people, and also address individual barriers that hold back our participants from achieving their greatest level of personal performance. We do this by creating a highly charged positive environment that elevates the self-image of the course participants so that you think beyond the set limits of the mind.
 
All the barriers between you and achievement are in the mind, and as the famous song goes: Free Your Mind…And the Rest Will Follow. Nothing can be truer than this statement, especially when it comes to improving or expanding your self-image. Free your mind from the mental bricks, and you will find your life soaring to the greatest heights that you never dreamed were even possible.